by Charleen Burghardt
One of the hardest things in life is losing our mothers.
Mother’s Day is upon us; it is a time to celebrate and honor the special mother in our lives. If your mother is alive, be thankful and relish your time with her. It is a gift to have your grandmother or mother-in-law, too. Maybe you have someone who has been like a mother to you. Express your gratitude to them on this joy-filled day. Their presence is a blessing in our lives.
But this day can be painful for some. With that in mind, I want to extend recognition to those for whom Mother’s Day can be tender. To those who lost their mothers or those navigating strained relationships with their mothers or children, your experiences are valid and worthy of acknowledgment and honor.
When my mother was alive, I enjoyed getting her a gift with a card and visiting her. Then, after she died in 2017, the festive day took on a different meaning. I no longer have her, and it saddens me. Now, Mother’s Day is about her memory.
They birthed us, loved us, sacrificed for us, and trained us. Despite our trials, our mothers cheered us on and believed in us. They offered the soft side of life by nurturing us. They were also our link to the past, giving us a heritage.
One of the hardest things in life is losing a child.
Mother’s Day can be extremely difficult for those who have lost a baby or a child. We never forget our lost child. The ache can be so huge, and the hole that is left can’t be filled. Mother’s Day can be a painful time.
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed” (Psalms 34:18 NLT).
Losing a child doesn’t make sense. We live in a fallen world, and the world’s brokenness affects even childbearing. How many times have I said, “It’s not fair? Why did this happen?”
Our Father in Heaven holds us, promises never to leave us, and keeps our precious little ones as they wait for us.
If you have lost a child, be gentle with yourself, allow yourself space to grieve. Do what helps you. Allowing yourself to remember and shedding tears is okay. Maybe you need to be with family, or maybe you need to change up what you do.
Remember mothers who have lost children, as they are mothers, too. Acknowledge them, honor them, and their courage to live with child loss. Our compassionate God walks with them in their grief, recognizing their heartache, sobs, longings, and lost dreams, and promises never to leave them.
Honor women who have never been able to have a child.
Another group of women who bear the weight of childlessness finds this day especially difficult, with mixed emotions. Infertility carries the pain of not having children. Often forgotten, they hold deep wounds. The Scriptures contain stories of women who could not conceive, including Sarah, Rachel, Hannah, and Elizabeth. God listened to their heartbreak. Their grief matters to God, who knows and sees those who cannot bear children.
“He will wipe every tear from their eyes, and there will be no more death or sorrow or crying or pain. All these things are gone forever” (Revelations 21:4 NLT).
I want to acknowledge those for whom Mother’s Day is not a joyful celebration, but a time when emotions can be sensitive, a bitter/sweet day. Be mindful of those who carry sadness on this day. Some carry pain because their journey as a mother has not been what they thought, and their dreams did not turn out. Some carry the pain of infertility.
May God encourage and comfort those for whom this day is difficult.
Prayer for those who lost their mothers:
Dear God and creator of life,
You placed me in a family with a mother who loved me. Thank you for my mother’s sacrifices, kindness, willingness to teach me, and ability to challenge me with correction. Thank you for the remarkable and loving person my mother was. I will always miss her and feel a significant loss. Carry my sorrow. Help me feel your loving arms surrounding me.
As I miss her presence, may I treasure the precious memories by recalling the fun times of laughter and joy, the special occasions, the meal gatherings, the life values she instilled, and her countless stories. Help me hold those close.
I pray for courage when I miss her and wish to talk to her. Bring her wisdom to my mind so I can recall it as I navigate life.
Thank you for my mother, her love, life lessons, and the gift of having her as my mother. May I honor her in how I love others.
Amen.
“God is our refuge and strength, always ready to help in times of trouble” (Psalm 46:1).
Prayer for those who lost a child:
Dear Heavenly Father,
Thank you for being aware of my loss and giving me the honor of belonging to you. You see me and hear me, especially in the sadness of losing a child. You know the circumstances of my loss, with all the emotions I have experienced and am experiencing.
I am still my child’s mother even though they are not with me physically. Death cannot take my motherhood away. However, you know how painful this Mother’s Day is.
My heart breaks in so many places. Almighty God, you promised to be near the brokenhearted and to rescue those crushed in spirit. Meet me in my space of loss, the hole that seems never to heal. Bring healing to what needs it. Be my strength, my shepherd, and my counselor. May I experience the comfort of the Holy Spirit, the nearness of Christ. May I feel your love and compassion holding me.
When in solitude, whisper the hope of Jesus Christ to me, knowing you will wipe all tears away someday. Surround me with a supportive community, especially a supportive faith community. May your divine presence accompany me each hour and each day.
Amen.
Grace Offers Hope,
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